My Money Secret

The law of attraction is the belief that whatever you think about in life you will attract. If you want to be rich... start thinking about what you want in detail; just visualize the career, the success, the checks and the house and you will attract those things in your life. At least that's I learned watching the video called The Secret .After I was introduced toThe Secret via Oprah, I suspected that LOA would be the key to my success. That's what I hope for.

So let me $hare The Problem; worrying about money is keeping me up at night. My husband became the bread winner for the family when I left my job about 2 years ago. The transition from being self sufficient to becoming financially dependent was challenging. Gambit, my husband, made it easier for me because he always considered all money...our money but we $till disagreed with each other's financial philosophies that lead to a few ... Besides Gambit made enough money to take care of our family, and working outside of the home became very difficult for me so setting pride aside we learned to deal............until my husband lost his client two weeks before Christmas. The once small disagreements had become mountains in a matter of minutes. With my health problems and his entrepreneurial skills we decided to focus our efforts on building up our business. Our plan... live off of my retirement money until we make it.

I learned early in life that it was important to play it safe but my life feels like one big risk; this results in an emotional rollercoaster of stress, fear, anger and shame. This came at a time when I finally decided what I wanted to be when I grew up. This time last year I gave in to my husband's persistent pleas and started a blog. I fell in love with blogging instantly and envisioned becoming a professional blogger. Having very little internet and writing experience made me a little technically and grammaticality challenged that only encouraged me to commit to working hard and connect to my love of learning.Gambit had plans to revamp his businesses that he's neglected. His old client consumed too much of his time so he is grateful to have the time to work for himself again

So what's our plan? Um...I'm not sure... I feel like we are making it up as we go along. Do you know the song lyrics, that's me right now. So hubby and me are learning how to thrive in uncharted waters I am desperately searching for anything that can bring faith, peace and joy; that's why the law of attraction looks so appealing but the pressure that I'm under to hurry up and make money makes learning LOA principles difficult. So I just follow the LOA the action series I found on blog Lessons From A Recovering Doormat. Until I learn how to make LOA work for me I will focus on the one thing I already know...Hope is powerful!

My hope for 3L is to inspire people to do their best and teach them through my life's lesson (successes and failures). It is humbling to publish a post about the hardships in my life when I want to take a well respected authority role but in reality I'm not an expert on positivity and business success. Yes I have struggle in every area of my Life but I have a Lust for learning and a Love for sharing what I know. Please don't focus on my faults, instead read and learn from my mistakes. I want 3L to become a second home for all of us...a place to let down our guards and facades and express what you repress so that obsess cause depress...ion...(couldn't figure out how work out the last word). Stress hurts my creativity so I thought that it was time to share the things that are troubling me before I become superficial.

I need your advice. Please help me come up with a blogging business: pointing out 3L's flaws and quick fixes, frugal living tips, how to create financial plan with your partner and ideas on monetizing a blog quickly. I do a lot of reading but find that I'm torn between abandoning the blog while I plan or making half hearted efforts to improve my efforts... So I decided that instead of trying to come up with all the answers myself I'll get by with a little help from my friends

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LazyKing said...

I want to be rich and healthy :)
very good post, one of my favorite so far.
And hey thank you for The Fear and all your kind words. I'm happy that you like the new layout

virgo27 said...

very interesting post! thanks for being so frank and personal. as long as you have a dream and your overall vision, you will succeed. i would suggest going to your bank or credit union with a list of $$ questions that you may have. at least that is something that you can go and do right away. also, i always refer people to this book, "the 7 habits of highly effective people." it's all about personal/professional change. if you have and have read it, read it again. if you do not have, get it and read it. it's very helpful, in my opinion.

Future Mama said...

I loved the Secret! I liked the movie more... It's good to have a focus to keep your sights set on :) I with I could follow my own advice but really... Eveything will work out somehow. Sometimes it doesn't feel that way but it has to right?

Thanks so much for sharing such a personal experience with me!

Jon Paul said...

Worry and fear. I know what I want, the trouble is, there is more than a few things that I want. Where to begin and which way to go? Thanks you for your story.

Gina Alfani said...

Every morning when I get out of bed I feel like I'm ready to jump out of an airplane without a parachute . . . I can relate . . . it is a bad feeling.

LLnL said...

@LazyKing- The Fear speaks to me and helps me to smile at myself. I've never considered myself materialistic and value a simple life. Well that's what I've got so I should be elated not stresses.

@virgo27- I love practical advice thank you so much. You really seem to be a very intelligent and solid person. Thank you again for everything.

@Future Mama- Thank you. I imagined people telling me that I was stupid and lazy. It's reading your comment refreshes my spirit and helps to remember that it's okay to believe in myself and my dreams.

@Jon Paul- I say start with the biggest and the easiest and the hardest goal. Setting short term goals encourage you to feel successful. Long term goals help keep you focused and working hard. You need balance to become a overachiever.

@Gina Alfani- So nice to hear that I'm not alone. The emotion intensity is enough for a nervous breakdown, but it is balanced with passion and perseverance so I it's HIGH HIGHS & low lows.

saritameow said...

Great Post! I feel like we're so much alike and in the same boat. The hardest thing about the LOA is keeping the negative thoughts out. You can wish for anything all day long, but as soon as that negative thought creeps in saying "this isn't going to work or we're in such a financial mess" you have to start over. It's hard when our daily stresses keep reminding us of this.
You are doing such a great job though and expressing yourself is an excellent way to get out those frustrations & stresses

Steve Borgman said...

Thanks for adding me to your blog! One of the persons I draw inspiration from is Darren Rose over at He never envisioned that he would be earning 6 figures from his blog. Many great things come from small beginnings. But the seed has to be watered and nurtured patiently and persistently over time.

3L said...

Saritameow- Negative thoughts is a hard habit to break. However I think that trying to avoid negative thoughts ends up doing more harm than good. Meditating on feeling and thoughts can balance out the LOA principles for people who are not consistently optimistic. My problem is that when i'm really stressed, stillness seems allusive and mediation feels difficult.

3L said...

Steve Borgman- I love Darren Rose was meant to blog and I love learning from him, but thanks to you I can also look to his success as inspiration.