Staying Motivated

Staying motivated can be difficult when you faced with overwhelming challenges. By equipping yourself with a plan of action you will be prepared to push forward when you face discouragement.

On LL&L I shared a few motivation trips that help with getting and staying motivated. In this article I want to share a little more about those tips so that you know how to use them effectively. The first tip is to erase the word try from your vocabulary. Using the word try gives you the option to fail. I use the word try as an excuse when I feel insecure about my abilities, when I don't want to act, or when I want of kill off hope so that I won't be disappointed later. Try means "I will do what is comfortable as long as I feel like it before I give up". When you remove the word "try" from your vocabulary, failure is no longer an option. Instead by saying that you will do "____", your integrity is on the line and because you've committed to doing whatever it takes to accomplish that goal.

When you remove "try" from your vocabulary it forces you to think before you speak. We are often guilty of saying "Yes" things we don't want to, or have time to do. Some people are great and asking others for what they want, a great skill to have. Another great skill is the ability to say "No" and to accept it with others say "No". I hate asking others for help but I sometimes feel uncomfortable saying no to people. When I go by my feelings I have a tendency to become overwhelmed because I tell people yes a lot but I don't ask for help when I need it; that is a set up for failure. When you commit to goals that you dislike, aren't in line with your values, or leave you feeling anxious it is very difficult to put you heart into it. You will put forth a weak effort if you even try at all.

Before you committing to a new goal, make sure that it is something that you really, really, really want. I'm sure you can think of a many things that you don't enjoy but that need to get done. Maybe you don't love mowing the lawn, doing the dishes, going to work, or pushing yourself during a workout. Those activities are steps towards achieving things you want or need: you mow the law because you want tohave nice place to call home, you take out the trash because you want to live in a clean and healthy environment, you do the dishes because you want to eat good food off of clean plates, you go to work because you want to provide a good life for your family, and you workout so that you want to look good and live a long and healthy life. Once a step becomes a habit you don't have to motivate yourself first, it beocmes reflexive, but when you are trying to develop new habits you need to spend time asking yourself, "What's my motivation?"

Here's a great exercise to get to the heart of why you want what you want. First write down your new goal in a notebook or a journal. For every goal you write down you will ask yourself why you really, really, really want it. When you write down that answer ask yourself why regarding the new response. Repeat the last step three times or until you have a very motivating reason for completing your goal. If you want an example of this exercise please check out my article titled, "The Five Whys". When you complete the exercise you should have a compelling reason; if not, reexamine that goal and ask yourself if you really want something else.

When you finish articulating your motivation it's time to move onto creating an environment for success. Looking at a successful sports team you see a lot of elements: supportive and faithful fans, energetic and creative cheerleaders, strong and talented player, a smart and dedicated team leader, a tough but inspirational coach and trainers, an intelligent and strategist as a GM and a rich and ambitious owner. Every once a while there is a player that outshines most in talent and ability but no one wins championships on their own. The harder the goal the more important it is to build a team of supporters, mentors and cheerleaders. From your team you will receive resources, expertise, and encouragement that you can not give yourself. If you are an independent person that's okay, you can be your own source of support, knowledge and encouragement, just know that it will take more time and effort to go it alone. But the bigger and brighter you support group, the bigger and brighter your dreams will be.

That brings me to my final point; create a vision. Creating goals is a great start but nothing can top dreams. Spend time daydreaming or meditating on what it will be like when you achieve you goals. Creating and focusing on your vision will inspire you and help you to connect with your creativity. You will be able to come up with creative solutions to problems that arise and add necessary steps that you may not have recognized before. A great way to help you design a clear picture of what you want is to create a vision board. Buy a cork board and cut out pictures and words from a magazine of what your life will look like when you obtain your goals. When you finish a vision board, hang it where you will see it every day.

Working towards your goals should not feel like drudgery but should be a fun and fulfilling experience. Implement these steps the next time you decide to add a new goal, or anytime you need new inspiration.

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Amusing Bunni said...

Hi LLnL:
This was a very helpful article with lots of great suggestions. I agree, eliminate "Try", it just gives you an easy out. Saying "I WILL", and also telling a friend or two about your intention holds you accountable.

It is hard to say no sometimes, but when I need to do it, I'll preface it by: "That's wonderful, blah blah, "I'd really LOVE to (help you, loan you $500, watch your hyper kid, etc.) but I have a prior committment, I'm broke, I'm contagious etc. A little white lie can help smooth things out. People don't accept NO as a complete sentence, so you gotta sugar coat it sometimes.

Saying no gets easier each time you do it. We women sometimes have the "disease to please". We try to accomodate, thinking people will like us more. Who cares, we end up tired and over-extended. You gotta do what's best for you.
Remember, NO is a complete sentence. Say it a few times. No. No. No. There, it's getting easier already, isn't it?

Visualizing the outcome of what you WANT to do is also very powerful. LL, I hope you have a wonderful weekend and I know you will stay motivated to write your informative Blog!

LLnL said...

: D I am cheesing. Your comments like "That's wonderful, blah blah, "I'd really LOVE to (help you, loan you $500, watch your hyper kid, etc.) but I have a prior commitment, I'm broke, I'm contagious etc" made me LOL!

Your so right about the disease to please. Men say no all day everyday. Sometimes it is hard for them to say no to loved ones, but they have no problem saying no to people outside of their circle. Your right the more you say it the easier it gets. Especially if you omit the white lie. I practice saying no to my hubby and its is curing me. If I can say no at home I can say no anywhere.

Have a great weekend as well! Thank you for making my day.